Study People do not forget the sting of you not remembering them

Study People do not forget the sting of you not remembering themStudy People do not forget the sting of you not remembering themWhats your name again? Sorry, I dont remember meeting When a colleague makes it clear that they do not remember us, we may outwardly say that we are totally perfectly fine with it, but inside, we are reeling from the blow. We do not forget the sting of being forgettable, anew studyon the psychological impact of being remembered or forgotten finds.This is how bad it hurts to feel forgottenForgetting someones name is certainly not the worst thing you can do to a colleague, but it does leave a lasting impression.Across a series of four experiments, psychologist Devin Ray and his colleagues at University of Aberdeen got people to talk about the experience of being forgotten by others. Participants said their most common experience was someone forgetting a personal detail (The manager of the hotel where I am working forgot my name) or past interactions (My friend s organized a night out, and forgot to ask me).These everyday interactions came off as potential slights. Peoples interpersonal relationships got damaged. Being forgotten can be an isolating, depressing experience. People who were forgotten reported decreased senses of belonging and meaning in the world.Participants could rationalize being forgotten with a good excuse like She already met too many people in the last couple of days, but they could not fully explain their hurt away. It is human to want to be known and recognized. When someone does not remember you, they are signaling in some small way that you do not matter.Being forgotten is an important and layered experience, Devin Ray, one of the authors of the study, said. It can lead to these Funny, haha, I forgot your name at a party stories. But it can also lead to more serious, Oh my God, I cant believe you did that crushing moments.